LFL- I wanted to emphasize that although my last post sounded negative, I do think there is hope in your sich that both you and your H could expand your "skill sets" and communication to the extent that your sex life could become more mutually satisfactory. Obviously, based on my last post on my own thread, my 2bx's issues were something beyond simple lack of confidence or drive. The reason "my" sexual "skills" never worked with my 2bx had a lot to do with the fact that they were "my" sexual "skills". That is why when I would, for example, make real attempts to increase my physical attractiveness they would often fail. The cute hip-hop outfit that got me validation from strangers got me insults from my 2bx because it was such a strong statement of my individuality.
Thanks MJ. Seems like most people agree H and I have a great shot at figuring this stuff out. That feels good. And I know we are a perfect match in so many other ways that it is worth all the effort and stress trying to come up with a workable solution. It's already getting better so at least we are going in the right direction. LFL
