Madonna/Whore Complex Part 4

[Heywyre]

My H is a master at avoiding emotions too. But I think those days are over and he is going to be pressed hard by this guy. His response to most things is usually "what am I supposed to do, be a blubbering idiot".

After the session on Friday we were talking about the funeral of his son (which was a good thing because I believe he still needed to get some of that emotion out of him left over from the session) and he was saying how his X was "almost hysterical".

Now, as much as I don't believe there should have been an open casket, that just makes things all the more difficult, especially with a child, I said to him "but that was his mother, she needed to grieve in her own way, whether you understand that or not". He said "I guess so" - which is more than he has ever said before when we've talked about it. He usually brushed it off and referred to her "making a scene". Now I know most of that emotion is directed at her, for taking his son away from him and the relationship breaking down, and not at all about her "making a scene" - which, once again, is his way of avoiding. Just point to something else as the problem and avoid the elephant that's standing on your toe, yup, that's him to a "T"

So last night I went searching for pictures of myself and found several actually. I haven't decided which one to choose but I will today. However, last night when I went to bed after H left for work, I thought about the pictures and some of the things in my life that happened when I was a kid and I started crying. I thought about one of the pictures and how sad and sorry I felt for that little child. I told her it was ok and I wouldn't let anyone hurt her. I cried for a few minutes but then I felt really good afterwards. It was the weirdest feeling.