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Well, maybe you were joking, but it sounded like you were (partly) blaming LDW for the sex problems of HDW. That would be unfair IMO.

I agree, it wouldn't be fair.
Point taken.
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LDW are getting the short end of the stick too because of our society. They are missing out and they don't even know it. I was one of them. Many have been programmed to believe sex is dirty and because of this they can't enjoy a fulfulling sex life. There are certainly many other causes at play too. Being LD certainly isn't a walk in the park.

Well, I still think people need to take personal responsibility for this issue. Of course our society influences us and our sexuality, but it seems unfair to say it is society to blame for the crappy SL in a M. That person is well aware it is causing problems between the two people and using society as the reason for LD just seems counter-productive. Not saying that is what you meant, just making a point.
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Who is looking at HDW as freaks? LDW? The HDW's LDH? Just curious. This labeling seems to bother you, but it doesn't make you feel like a victim? Again, just curious.

The label doesn't "bother" me per se, I don't mind being different. But I know that other people will judge, like you were saying. I am personally quite content with who I am but it is hard sometimes to be "me" with my H and others around me because I do feel somewhat judged, and therefore may suppress myself. It is not being a victim, it is just trying to function effectively in the M and world around me.
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I get defensive when I think I'm being judged or compared to someone else and I fall short.

I understand. I think most people would.
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I think women get defensive because they're accustomed to having to defend their "female" positions to other women.

It probably goes back to "law of the jungle". A feminine woman is always going to attract the masculine males. The interesting part is the continued debate over what femininity really is today. I don't think we have clear roles anymore and it makes some women fight for position as you said. No wonder we are all so messed up. ;\)
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