welcome to my nightmare

[andyv]

Husband,

I switched across to your sitch after reading the good advice you gave me on mine.

You should forget about the muppet (OM). He is not worth it.

I have done a few silly things in my sitch, but the one thing I am proud of is that I am better than the OM and I refuse to have any dealings with him, and do not even want to think about who he is or where he works or what W is doing when she is with him.

I already told my W (before she admitted to starting a R with OM just a few days ago) that she can do what she likes with him, but keep him out of my "space", and that includes our home, and keep him from my DD.

If or when we divorce, then she can bring this muppet into DD's life, but she is too young to understand that mummy is still married to daddy, and mummy has a boyfriend.

My W agreed to this. And I have controlled my temper to date, but If I ever found out that she reneged on this deal, then I would probably find OM and "explain" my request to him personally.

Until then, I will not have any dealings with this scumbag. If things do improve for me and W in the future, then I will not have any memories of OM to dwell about.

So please, as hard as it may be, drop him from your "Outer circle" and out of your thoughts completely. Trust me, I feel so much better not having him in my memory.