Need Veteran Piecer's Advice - desperately!!!

[Heartbroken]

My brother says I need to let H set up the MC session - he can ask for my help but that he needs to actually want to do it otherwise I fall into that same control boat. How do I handle this with H?

Not sure of how to find a good therapist - ours from my work just don't seem to truly get it. How could his IC tell him he is thinking fine when he still feels so unhappy - not sure what line of bull H gave...

I feel we may have only one shot at a MC session and it had better be good...