I do have a separate acct, as does he. If I take all the money out of the joint acct, or if I have my paycheques deposited in my own acct, I am afraid that he will cut me off. Since he earns substantially more money than I do, this would be a problem.
I will talk to my L further this morning, and we will decide what to do.
H has spent over $600 on himself (incl trip) in the past week. I am really pissed.
I told my L yesterday that this has got to be done with ASAP. As we get closer to D-day, I've noticed that he's spending more and more money. After reading DNQ's thread, I feel silly complaining about $600, but it's not a good sign. I want this deal signed, sealed and delivered.
As for LS vs. D - we are now going down the D route. I originally wanted LS (which could be converted to a D after a year), but I changed my mind. H definitely wants the D, but he was willing to go along with me. I decided to go for the D once he started to disrespect our marriage vows to the point of making this happy little family with his gf, with my kids sleeping at her place, and the two of them sharing a room with the kids around. That was IT for me.
If God wants us to be together sometime in the future, we will be. But right now, this is not a healthy R. I just want out. I still pray that God will work on H (and me), and that we will end up together again in a healthier R, but I'm not holding my breath on that one.
~Nicola
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