LFL- I wanted to emphasize that although my last post sounded negative, I do think there is hope in your sich that both you and your H could expand your "skill sets" and communication to the extent that your sex life could become more mutually satisfactory. Obviously, based on my last post on my own thread, my 2bx's issues were something beyond simple lack of confidence or drive. The reason "my" sexual "skills" never worked with my 2bx had a lot to do with the fact that they were "my" sexual "skills". That is why when I would, for example, make real attempts to increase my physical attractiveness they would often fail. The cute hip-hop outfit that got me validation from strangers got me insults from my 2bx because it was such a strong statement of my individuality.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
