UD, if he already knows about the appt, there is no need to remind him. It is HIS responsibility and decision to go or not. If he does not, don't ask him about it. You go and take care of yourself.
You already realized that pushing him to talk is useless. Now it is just a matter of learning how not to do it. good luck and take care


M 38, H 38, two sons
Met 20 years ago
Married 13 years
Bomb: Oct, 2006
DB: Started in Dec, 2006
H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007
H back home and piecing?