The wife's spouting typical fog babble. Of course she wants to have some guilt release by you having a GF!
She's guilty and the euphoria of the "secret" release will soon wear off.
Treat her with respect, but through her choices she is no longer part of your "inner circle". Make your life fun, give her oppurtunities to join but never wait for her or plan around her. It's you and the daughter now so make sure you keep the family unit strong. Remember, it's not "splitting the family", it's not "we both decided". She wants out and is having an affair so make sure that information is what people get if you want to pass anything on. She's leaving, abandoning the family. You and your daughter will be fine. Have a nice weekend and I hope you and the daughter have something nice planned!
