Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[andyv]

Husband,

Mate, well done. It really does sound like you two are re-connecting and for her to research for all that time, incredible. She did it for you and you only, how marvelous is that.

I am so happy for you. Please keep doing what you are doing. Every day seems to be getting better for you.

I hope that with all the revelations I have had over the last few days, my W starts to get some feelings back also.

I feel that I am probably rock bottom at the moment, with W telling me that she and OM are going to start a serious relationship, and she has told her family (not her mother or father, only sisters and cousin). The problem I have is that they have not done anything, not even kissed yet, but he is ready to take the next step (after he was not interested for the last few months). She said that if it progresses, then good, but she will not be rushed into anything.

At least if I knew that she had already had PA with him, it may not hurt so much as waiting for the event to happen.

Is it normaly the case that the W starting a R with OM to be happier and more caring to her betrayed spouse. This is what is happening at the moment, now that the burden of secrecy has been lifted. She is much more pleasant.

And the sad thing is that she is telling me to find someone, and even suggested dating some of her friends to make her feel better, because she wants me to be happy too. How friggen crazy is that.

Is this the way all women going through MLC and an OM behave???? I find that I am at square one with my DBing.

But it really is good to hear your news Husband. I will always keep my fingers crossed for you.

AndyV