Here's my hunch....you are trying to protect yourself from hurt and so you are trying to convince yourself that being friends and him being happy is ok with you. I get that.
Don't lose yourself. What YOU want and what YOU need is very very important too! Don't forget that.
Sometimes the path to the "good things" in life is covered with thorns. You'll step on a few, but can manuever yourself around most of them.
Hang in there! bambam
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs