If you are game, let's try to open a channel to the captain first and see what happens.
Since he responded to an email, why not write another one, only this time, keep it very matter of fact and short. I will throw an idea out to get you started and you make it yours if it works for you.
"Hubby. As you are aware, I have tried to implement some changes in our relationship recently. It was with great hope for our future that I attempted to address my negative contributions to the relationship. I had hoped that we could establish a starting point for the two of us to build a new relationship together, a relationship that would address both of our needs in our marriage, both now, and in the future.
Obviously, my hope and efforts have fallen short of my goal for a new and better relationship with you. Our goals are obviously not the same.
With that apparent failure in mind, I wanted to simply come right out and ask you what your goals for our marriage are. Where do you see our relationship a year from now? If our relationship is to improve, how do we get there from here?
Heather"
Let me know what you think. -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
