Plan your dream cruise for some time a year from now...even if you and H do work things out...you still go!...this is what I am doing...I am going places and doing things even though we are now together...and I started this after he left me...I need to keep MY LIFE...I gave it over to him once before and it so crippled me...I didn't realize how much...so not this time...I am woman hear me roar!!!
Give yourself a goal reward (like a cruise or vacation with the kids) that you can look forward to...no matter what...you do what you have planned...this is getting a life and making plans regardless of what H does or doesn't do!
Let the kids have sleepovers that you participate in...have your own ladies night...or movie night...or special TV show night (my son and I did Survivor...my girls did The Office)...no matter what H comes up with it is "Sorry, this is ______ night. Maybe some other time."...Invite g/f's over to play cards...or whatever...join Jazzercize (I have done this with my girls...and suprisingly I LOVE IT)....
I think your H has NOT made a decision...he talks the talk to his C and to you...but in his deepest part of his soul he is still confused...I saw this with my H...at about the same age...duh! MLC!!!!...but for you own sake...you need YOUR life...and a FAMILY life with the kids...so do what you ALL enjoy...and just don't even include H...at first it will be hard but soon you will see how fun it is....I am a mystery shopper so I could take my kids places and get reimbursed....this allowed us to go out to nice restaurants...amusement parks....hotels...even getting my oil changes...I used to take H with me and when we were separated he made fun of me for always going out "when it was free"...well guess what???...He doesn't make fun of me anymore since we are tight on funds...this is one way we get to do things...and I get lots of right-offs for it on my taxes...how does that saying go???...He who laughs first, laughs last...well I now have the first laugh!
Your doing great...be strong...grow strong...find you!...and have fun doing it!
