IMO, most spouses go to counseling with the intent of showing the other how wrong the other is and how right s/he is. If your H thinks he can "prove" this to you, then he might go. But you will know it is all projection on his part and you can detach from his attacks. Your H left counseling when he thought the tables were being turned on him. So maybe you just needed a smarter, shrewder counselor.
I see what you are saying. I can ask him. You can't get much smarter or shrewder than my H though....someone who is trying to protect something will sense danger from a mile away kwim? He knows a C would eventually shed the light on him. But I can still ask.
I'm just sort of getting through the days right now. I still just don't feel like giving H the time of day. At work I've been letting his calls go to voicemail and I call back if it's important. Honestly I'm surprised he is still calling me. As I predicted he no longer tousles my hair or tells me goodnight. I'm ok with it.
I just don't see where the R can move forward right now. But I'll try to stay the middle ground and do no harm so that we at least don't go farther backwards.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
