25 - I agree the past 2yrs cannot just be forgotten b/c they happened and H did alot of shitty things in that time. I do want this to work but I think you are right now is the hard work.
We chatted last night & he stayed & he really wasn't understanding what my hesitation is about on him moving back in.
I explained and in the end I just said "Look, I Love you and I want this M to work. Last week was fantastic with what you said to me & in asking me if you could move back in. Dont you remember I said I wanted all of that but that it would take some adjustment time & after all that has happened I need to see some enthusiasm from you & you need to show me that you are committed and happy to go the hard yard.
H said he remembered and I said well I am glad that you remember but your actions are not reflecting that. He said he understood but I really don't know if he did.
I guess I just see what happens over the next couple of days and take it one step at a time. He turns 43 next month & he left 6 mths after turning 40. Maybe this truly was a MLC & he is just coming out of the fog.
Now 25yrs I am about to go & read your thread & see if I can learn anything from you......
