So i picked up my kids early from school and got home around 3:30. Around 4:00 my wife shows up after a day of house hunting with one of her friends that is a realtor. When she found a moment with us being alone, she wanted to tell me all about how wonderful the neighborhood she is looking in is, and how 1 of the houses was just perfect. She said "i had the same feeling that i had with this house".
I just looked at her and didn't say much. I then said, its going to take a while to work through all the financial issues. Selling this house is going to take time, and its going to cost us over 100k in realtor fees to sell it.
I said, 'i know you want to live seperately though, so i looked online and found a house that i might be able to rent. It's close to here, and its not priced that badly.'
She looked really forelorn. She then said somewhat angrily 'I don't want to stay in this house. What? Why do you get to go off and move to a new house, and i have to stay here? I don't like this house it has bad energy'. (arggghh. what the hell, like i fell in love with someone 10 years younger and wants to split our family up over it)
Mind you this is the house she fell in love with, and had that ooh so good feeling when she insisted we buy it.
Anyways, i didn't respond to all of that, i just said I am just trying to give you what you want. We can't get the asset split done that quickly and it could take up to 5 or 6 months to do it. And since she doesn't want to rent a place i said i could, and that way we could live seperately.
She looked like she was going to cry. I don't want to suggest that she is feeling like she is losing me. Because that's not it. She is just upset that she doesn't get to live the vida loca in her new million dollar house and seeing her new boyfriend.
She thinks by buying a house and decorating it with the girls, the girls will enjoy the whole process. And me moving into a rental will be bad for them. (DIVORCE WILL BE BAD FOR THEM. - WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER)
So.. in her mind she moves to a new house with good energy, the girls are wildly happy cause mommy is wildly happy, her business is booming because she is now responsible for herself, and her love life is on fire because she has her new man.
I think i just threw a wrench in the works. Though honestly i am not doing it to hurt her. I just don't think we can simply allocate sooo much money to a new house before we actually split our assets. My lawyer highly recommended against it. And since we are then staying in the same house together for at least 4,5,6 months, as much as i love my wife i think its healthier for me to get out. Otherwise she is going to push super hard to get the money out of our accounts to go off and buy her house.
Anyways... I told her I hadn't made up my mind about any of it, and we would definately need to talk about it, but i was going to go look at the place next week. I'll have to call my lawyer too, to get an idea of what i would need to move out.
Anyways, i'm going to go out and have a few beers with a friend tonight. So at least i can keep my mind off of things for a little while.
