Santhony,
besides the fact I want to make a trip to Michigan and let loose a little steam, I want to shake that woman and stomp on her feet!

My former C told me that through a D and about 1 to2 years after, that you can not be friends. So be it. Just take care of you and little kiddles in the way that you know how.
Wilson (was too sad) gave excellent advice.
I only have this to add:

Plan on having a mutually satisfying, pleasant unattached relationship with XW in a year or two, and allow for the possiblity sooner for the sake of your kids.
Hooly.
I changed my name a little, as I am spinning too fast and too much on the stripper pole!

Bomb 1/06
D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature.
Divorce final October 31, 2008.
OW looks like bad history. Over.
Still hopeful. Baby steps.
In R with my X.