Just remember, Women like being part of the solution.
Something like, "Hon, I have plans tonight and I'm going to keep those plans, does that work for you?"
If she says no, then, "Do you have something more important that I need to do for you where I need to drop my plans? If not, I'm going to stick to those plans."
She then needs to come up with a legitimate reason to have you skip the plans, which it didn't sound like she had one.
When she doesn't have one, you simply say, "I'm going to stick to my plan, it's important to me to see my friend's band. Talk with you later."
You've negotiated, yet YOU made the decision, and she was along for the discussion. If she had a legitimate reason, then you'd look at that and say something like, "You know, that is more important than my plans, I'll be over in 15 minutes to get the girls, is that soon enough to get there?" You STILL made the decision, but made the one that makes sense given the magnitude of importance of the 2 compared scenarios. She gave you input, and was part of the process. She sees you can make a decision, which is very attractive, and she's happy because you listened to her. Win-Win.
It's a skill I don't have yet on the fly, but it's coming...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
