Her tone when she called said it all, she was pissed and she thought she could hid it but it was crystal clear. I even asked her if she was upset about not being able to stay. That's when she rolled out the flexible line. I apologized to her and told her that I had made plans. I hope to catch up with some friends for trivia night at a local watering hole.
My attitude about it is I was sticking up for myself. I'll admit to bit of spite too. If she wasn't prepared for a negative answer then she shouldn't have asked in the first place. She already knew that I had badly wanted to see my friend's band. If I know her, and I do, she was also passive aggressively rubbing it in about going out and me missing my friend's band. She can be like that sometimes but would never admit it even if we didn't have this situation.
Over the last few months one impression I have gotten from her is a bit of underlying anger in that I have gotten out, made new friends and done things, IOW done GALing. I haven't been a complete home body like she has been. I have been very careful not to do anything that rubs it in either. She wanted the girls with her, wanted to be in the house and all, so with that comes the greater difficulty in getting out and about with friends, GALing. Sorry if she's upset about it all.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
