Good for you for confronting her. I think it is best to confront right away. Boy oh boy it has to be hard for her to see the error in her ways right now. Expecially with the kiddos knowing. How humiliating. Well, maybe for some people. I know I would be.

Choc I pray for strength for you. I know this has to be hard. I am so proud of you for calling her out on the carpet and for fighting for your marriage!