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By close I mean, in the bathtub, gun in mouth, finger on trigger, but he didn't go through with it (thank God!).


~wow~ that is very CLOSE!
I must reiterate what has been said to you. He seems still very emotional and hurt. And by your post it seems more like you want to fix it for him more than help him. YOU know you love him, and so you want to make it ALL BETTER but be careful,,,, you dont sound exactly like a doormat but it seems like you are asking for advice and then defending his actions etc. etc. There unfortunately is no magic pill fix for this.... if you want to help you need to be strong for yourself and him but he alone can come out of this. You can be supportive and strong but unless he wants to help himseLF this will just keep cycling. You have the blessing of a counselor see what she recommends! ;\) God willing he will get better.
God bless you and your Family. Take care