Great posts Eddie, you have been gaining some incredible insights - what are those drugs they psych has been giving you and where can I get some
60 mg of Cymbalta (which isn't an anti-anxiety medication as far as I've been able to determine, but it did banish anxiety completely for a few days here and there), 36mg Concerta. So far so good. It's a long and frustrating journey, but I think I see the route to the end.
And I'm a compulsive reader, which is bad when your job requires a computer hooked up to the Internet. But I'm learning a hell of a lot about human nature as I read here, finally, and I think I'll profit from it in the end.
Originally Posted By: haphazard
Fear of offending her or boring her tells you what not to say... only a positive desire to amuse her, connect with her, and trigger her attraction led me to apply knowledge and instincts I already had to come up with good things to say.
One of the hardest things I have had to deal with in my M is that my H is very easily offended. And this has led to me being fearful of saying much to him. I'm pretty much a witty sparky type of person that can say things that make people laugh - and some of the time I will be ribbing the other person a little. 99% of people (especially guys) can take it and give back as good as they get. But for some reason my H cannot take it. It's not that he cannot take it from me, he cannot take it from anyone. Sometimes I feel like I have spent 16 years having my natural sense of humour filleted out of me.
You've given me some hope though Eddie, when you say don't be afraid of what not to do, just try and come up with good things to say. What I've been finding seems to work best on H is when he comes up with some doom-laden piece of misery to just take it seriously then take it a bit more seriously then take it so seriously it becomes farcical and all of a sudden he's laughing at himself.
Yes, go with that! And Mr. Hap needs to do the same thing... use hope rather than fear as his motive to get him to his goals, so he can do well and have fun and be happy along the way.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
