LFL said: How are HDW supposed to get their needs met when men have been conditioned by society and the LDW around them to "behave" themselves.
Well, maybe you were joking, but it sounded like you were (partly) blaming LDW for the sex problems of HDW. That would be unfair IMO.
LDW are getting the short end of the stick too because of our society. They are missing out and they don't even know it. I was one of them. Many have been programmed to believe sex is dirty and because of this they can't enjoy a fulfulling sex life. There are certainly many other causes at play too. Being LD certainly isn't a walk in the park.
And to top it all off, the HDW are looked at as "freaks" or whatever insulting term you want to use. The fact remains, HDW are NOT accepted in society and often within their very own M's. A woman who has a higher sex drive than a man is just not normal.
Who is looking at HDW as freaks? LDW? The HDW's LDH? Just curious. This labeling seems to bother you, but it doesn't make you feel like a victim? Again, just curious.
Lots of women get "pissed off" at other women for speaking their own dammmm minds. Why can't we have different views on these issues?
We can and we should have differing views. It's when we start judging other women's choices that it becomes a problem, IMO.
I'm not ashamed to discuss it. You mentioned breast feeding, I had no interest. Didn't do it. Guess that makes me a bad mom. Women love to yell at me for that one too. Whatever. My mom raised six kids on formula and we seem no worse for wear. I did the same.
Re breastfeeding: I tried to do it, but I didn't want to. Not at all. And it didn't work anyway. Why did I try? Because I foolishly allowed myself to be convinced that I would be a bad, selfish mother if I didn't breast feed. (And having a long-awaited IVF baby made me feel even more guilty.) And who was trying to convince me of this? Other women. The lactation nurse at the hospital confiscated the cans of formula from the freebie diaper bags! G@d forbid I actually use formula!
That's my point. We women don't seem to be able to just let other women do what they want. "You want to breast-feed? Fine. Here's how you do it." "You don't? Well we've got this great formula for you." That's what I mean by the polarizing. We always seem to be picking sides and fighting against each other, when we really should be supporting each other and our choices to do what is best for us.
I guess the real issue is why do women get insulted/defensive when I make these statements, whether it's about motherhood, sexuality, HD vs LD, whatever?
I get defensive when I think I'm being judged or compared to someone else and I fall short. Around here, if you are or ever have been LD, you very likely fall short, IMO. Or at least that's how it seems. I realize that is one of my issues, though. I'm sure that's the case with others you've run into. But in general I think women get defensive because they're accustomed to having to defend their "female" positions to other women.
