Thank you for your posts. I don't know if the positives you are reading into are actually that strong. But i am happy with myself right now, and I don't need to remind her how much i love her, I can show her with my understanding and support. She actually wanted me to come house shopping with her today. I respectfully declined and told her to have fun.
Frank_d i have just spent the last hour reading your threads, and have to say you are one of the most compassionate people i have ever seen.
Your unconditional love for your wife is inspiring. I am very happy for you.
I have read the Way of the Superior Man, along with a couple other Deida books. I honestly have taken a long time to go from being needy, to being strong, and somewhat ok with this.
I still love my wife, and i believe that our relationship can and will come out of this much stronger. I wish my wifes OM was as much as a loser that your wife's was. However I need to start believing and living my life as the 'superior man'. Outwardly you would look at my life and the successes i have and say i am, but inwardly is where i am focusing my work right now.
I can't concern myself with the OM right now though. I have to continue to be strong, and make the changes in myself to be the best person I can be.
