Gwyn, totally fine. I understand. I don't think you're trying to be mean at all, you're just not fully aware of my situation and it's hard to give advice in that situation.
To clarify, he didn't attempt suicide. If he had attempted he would be dead. He came close. By close I mean, in the bathtub, gun in mouth, finger on trigger, but he didn't go through with it (thank God!). He's past the volatile emotions stage now. he's very settled in his emotions actually, just missing the OW.
36 is the early side of MLC, but they can occur any time between 35 and 50 (or there about.). My H was a textbook case. Followed every rule of MLC to a T including the multiple affairs, buying a new car, etc etc.
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
