sorry this is cross posted on the 180 board- I wasn't sure which place it should go
WH is definitely more friendly lately. He's even been flirtatious on a few occasions. We've even laughed together a few times.
He is still staying with OW and I'm well aware that I can't change that. And I know if I openly try to come between them at all, that it will only push them closer together..... (so I guess at this point I just have to try to "steal" him away from her....) He is still "dead set" about separation and divorce but at least right now we are getting along (and at times he has brought up the topic of coming home, or mentioned that he missed me, etc... I change the subject every time though! Especially since he's still telling me he's going to file... )
I'm taking what I can get at the moment because even if we do get divorced we're still going to be in each others' lives because of our kids. So I want to have a good relationship with him regardless... I also know that I cant expect him to ever consider R if we don't even have some sort of friendship between us. And my hope is that once we get a little closer (as "just friends") that we will fall in love all over again.
but i guess my question is, how do I keep up being friendly while the A is still going on? I'm keeping up with the 180 and doing a good job I think. He and OW went to his dad's house last night and he's openly sharing with me the details of what they do together (I'm dont EVER ask). I think at times he's trying just to see how I'll react (or even to provoke me- which won't work) but how do I stay friends and allow him to share these details with me, without seemingly "sitting by and taking it [the affair]"
I'm still very adament about the A ending COMPLETELY with NC before he is welcome here. but i dont know how to handle this increased interest he's showing in me while he's still with her....
SO- what do you do when the 180 starts to work but the A is still going on??
