Don't talk money until you've talked with a lawyer first. Let her know that all of this will need to be done through attorneys and try to stay out of financial discussions (You be prepared, but let her be the one to get the ball rolling if she wants to go that direction)....
I know with my husband "reverse psychology" has always helped. He tends to make choises opposite me just because he doesn't like to "give in" to me. I think being aware of any emotional responses like this can sometimes be helpful. Because if someone makes choises just to "spite" another then not giving them a position to "fight against" gives them the freedom to really figure it out on their own. In other words, the decision becomes theirs not because they want to go "against you." They have to truly consider what they want. Does that make sense????
Nothing insures a marriage can be saved, one can only respond and behave in a manner that gives the best possible chance at reconciliation.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
