I am so sorry HB. I know everyone says it isn't your fault, you don't deserve this, it is his problem, etc. but none of that really makes you feel any better. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. Just focus as much as you can on you and the kids for now.
There was a book called Rebuilding (don't know the author at the moment) that I thought was pretty good when I went through my divorce from my first H.
Be strong for your kids and yourself. You can get through this.
