Gwyn, It's hard when you don't know the entire situation. If I knew how I would post a link to my thread. I am FAR from a doormat in this situation. We are in MC together. He is VERY committed to working on us now and actually thinks that the MC is a good thing. This is TOTALLY different from the H that moved out 5 months ago. He went through a MLC and admits that he was very selfish and just doing whatever felt good at the time with no regard for anyone else's feelings but his own. He has been severely depressed and nearly committed suicide twice while away from home. He was so lost for a while. I was so worried about him. It was very scary. Now he's back to his old self only better in so many ways.
AS far as him missing OW, I know that's a normal part of breaking off the affair. I know OW are like drug addictions and they have to go through a withdrawl period after the break it off. I was EXPECTING this to happen. It hasn't come as a surprise to me at all. Now, I'm just wondering what my part in this is. Do I just sit back and let him work it out himself or is there anything I can do to help him? Thanks!
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
