Madonna/Whore Complex Part 4

[Heywyre]

More on our visit with the ST ...

There are "rules" we have to adhere to when we are at his office:

(1) we ALWAYS go together - no separate appointments
(2) we can't touch each other
(3) we aren't to roll our eyes, make faces nothing, while the other person is talking
(4) we are NOT to interrupt or put in comments when the other person is talking

ST says this is a major problem with people in counselling and when someone is trying to express what they feel, it totally throws them off and rarely will they return to that "moment"

But he said we did really well, even though he didn't tell us about the "rules" until the end of the session - sheesh! - but he doesn't think it will be a problem with us because he said we are "very considerate" of each other when they are talking.

One of the things ST talked about with H was "fantasies" and I could tell that really put H in an uncomfortable place. He immediately started talking about orgees, multiple partners, gay and "weird" sex and said he didn't agree with it AT ALL!!! ST zeroed in on that and probed quite deeply about his "fear" regarding sex. They must have talked about 15-20 minutes just about that.

At one point, and this is a little off subject, ST told about a time he was giving a lecture at a local university (which is a theological university by the way) and he said "when ML, 80% of people say they fantasize about having sex with someone else and the other 20% are lying" - you can imagine the response he got from that one - LOL

I don't know how much of that is true but I guess both H and I are repressed because I don't fantasize about someone else, and neither does he (so he says).

H got into the whole "disrespect" of having sex with his wife etc. and ST thought this to be quite interesting and dug deeper and I am sure will continue to as we go along.

ST said he likes to get to the root of problems quickly and deal with them so be prepared for him being "very aggressive"

Sounds good to me !!