the difference between "good" and "bad" is defined by your (the woman's) whim. there is no way to predict what thats going to be. What you are describing may be attainable within the bounds of a long-term relationship; but not on a date. no way, no how. It takes some time to achieve that level of trust. But even then, the woman still holds all the cards in our culture.
You can "say" that today you want to be all "Susan B Anthony", but tomorrow you want me to be all "john Wayne" if you like. But if tomorrow comes, and I'm being all John Wayne, and you change your mind...yet I persist...I'm going to f*&#ing jail, and that's all there is to it. Married or not.
I do see the "good girl/freak" issue, though, and the problem is rooted in the same place. the "good girl" programming permeates our neanderthal subconcious, which is incapable of reasoning and sorting out the subleties of when and where its ok to let "freak" come out. It never is (according to the subC). its just bad. Well, now you've got "good boy" programming, too, as defined by the feminist movement, which is equally as difficult to overcome. For some, its just "aggression" that is thwarted, but I'm sure for others, its being sexual at all...like the M/W syndrome we keep hearing so much about. That certainly has its tentacles firmly implanted in the subconscious and its inability to reason. but anyway...again, the difference between good-girl/freak and bad-boy/aggressive he-man is that when one is released in the wrong place, you get at worst, a bad reputation. But when the other is released, you go to jail.
