In fact, the harder someone pushes back, I see it as more confirmation that the idea is true (though some people will “push back” by shutting down or running). Everyone here could do well to learn that one lesson – if a person becomes reactive to a statement, then dig into that statement because something is festering there.
YOU resist someone digging too, as hard as anyone else here and you certainly don't appreciate it when someone continues to dig, when you flat out state that don't think it's an issue.
I also want to make one other comment about something you said...
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But I also know that on those occasions when I have pushed, I did clearly see a major issue and if that issue were to ever be resolved, the path would have to pass through that particular doorway I was seeing. There is no other way.
When I read this it comes across to me as "my way is the only right way." Now I know that's not precisely what you said in the words you use, but that is how it comes across...to me. You have valuable insights many times, but you DO push way too hard at times. It's just my personal opinion but sometimes I believe people pushed back at you because they felt that either you were off track or they felt attacked in your approach. Lets face it, you aren't the most tactful person at times...and I'm sure many times that doesn't bother you, you aren't concerned with tiptoeing around someone's feelings...but that can often lead to someone feeling attacked and defensive, and that alone can make them push back when they wouldn't with a different approach.
Ok...I said what I wanted to, and that's all I'll say about it. It's my perspective, not debating it. I wish you well.
