Ok, I maybe going crazy now. My W is wanting to get out of limbo and onto the next phase - whatever that maybe. This is what I am thinking...
The next time she brings up that she wants to move on I offer her the money for her house, not all of it but a good portion of half our equity. I then tell her if this is what is going to make you happy and that I want her to be happy with or without me. I then end the conversation and let her noodle on that for awhile.
I'm hoping that by me doing this I am taking the advice from "Love Must be Tough" a step further. I am showing her that she is free to go and I am not holding her back. The theory is the more I pull away the more she will want to draw closer to me. The only sticky point is our girls. If I really go through with this I would have to let the girls go with my W. That is hard for me....Not being able to: wakeup at night and watch my DD's peacefully sleeping in their beds, not being able to tuck them in every night, not having them run into my arms when I get home from work every day, and not having daily interactions with my W will be hard to get used to. But this might be a neccesary step for our M/Family. I want my family and if this is what it will take to make us whole again I am willing to make that sacrafice.
So am I crazy? Does any of my ramblings make any sense?
