I think it's important to remember that no man is a mind reader and that it is counterproductive to expect him to just know what to do without asking. IMO, it's a positive that if he was considering taking the job, he consulted with you prior to accepting it. He may have just needed validation that his feelings were right/wrong about it.
That said, I understand the desire to have a man whose priorities are such that the question would never have come up in the first place.
I have a friend who quotes her counselor as saying that we are most often paired with the mate who will help us experience the greatest growth in this life...I guess ours come with a little Miracle Grow included?
