Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[andyv]

Thx Guys,

Its funny how we can give good advice to others, but find it hard doing it ourselves.

I have managed to damage control the sitch, and still talking to W. She has told me that she has not done anything with OM (not even kissed him or even held hands) but they want to start seeing each other more and see where it goes.

She does not know if she loves him, but said that love does not happen instantly, it grows.

Also SIL told me that she is self conscious of her stretch marks (child birth several years ago), and told her that she is comfortable with me seeing her but she would not be comfortable with another. I was her first love, so that would be something else for her to worry about if it turns PA.

WTH, it didn't take us long when we first met to fall in love.

The other thing that pisses me off, is the worm of an OM is shorter than me (as tall as W), ordinary too look at, thinning hair at 26 y/o, dresses in cargo shorts when he goes to a function, and is carefull with his money.

He is the complete opposite to me. SIL has told me that she is crazy, and that she is giving up so much to be with him, and it is because she is sooooo angry at me for neglecting her for so many years, that she has no feelings left for me.

I have to stop any more talk about OM, regardless of how much it hurts. This will be the last time I talk. Wife was happy tonight that she has gotten it off her chest.

I even coaxed her into possibly going to the park on Sunday with me and DD (something we haven't done since end of last year (Nov)).

It really hurts me that W is so happy now that it is out in the open. I hope I haven't given her a free ticket to infidelity. But I am so drained with all the lies and deciet that I am much happier that she has told me the truth and is at least looking into my eyes when she talks to me.

She still wants to sell the house when the side fence goes up (as she said that it is hard living together with all the questions etc). But I hope with this new goodwill, I can prolong it enought to outlast the euthoria of OM.

Thanks for everyones support.