Well folks, I'm one day into Piecing and I've already experienced for myself what the wise people on the boards are saying. Piecing is very hard work, just like DBing in general. My wife steadfastly refuses any type of counseling - I was really hoping we could do the intensive with Michelle, since where close to Boulder.
She won't talk about the A at all, never mind answering any burning questions I have.
But, I'm trying to keep the right attitude. I'll check out the books that were mentioned by runningoutoftime.
We had a little argument about trust because we've both done some snooping and told some little white lies. We're each trying to stake out boundaries and she's holding everything back until we move. The fresh start will be good, but I hope she'll grow to realize that problems move with you if you don't change the root causes. But, by sticking to what I learned in Divorce Remedy, I (hopefully) didn't let it get too out of control. At some point, some things have to be discussed - I will try to change her only by changing the way I interact with her, but sometimes I have to have a counter argument when she's listing my faults or complaining about things.
