Well H came and stayed on Tuesday nite. It was a good nite we both seemed to enjoy it & he was meant to stay again last nite but he decided he wld rather go home as he has running around to do the next day. I was not happy with this.
I had told H that whilst I thought him moving in cld be a good thing that we couldn't just jump straight in after 2 yrs. He agreed. My suggestion was to ease into it by him staying a few nights in a row & see how we r all coping and see how that goes for awhile.
This is what I thought staying tues & wed was going to be - the first of a couple of nights in a row. I did tell him that by him going home it felt as if he didn't want to be at the house and would prefer to be elsewhere, even if that was just at his home on his own.
I had told him previously I needed to see some sort of enthusiasm from him which to me would show me we were on the right track. At the time (1 week ago) he agreed.
He didn't leave last night until 11.30pm so I just didn't get it.
I feel he is the one that walked out and the one who asked to move back in but is it wrong of me to expect him to be portraying to me that he hates being away from us and that he would like to stay as often as possible??????
I also asked him last nite what time frame he had in mind for his moving back in and he told me he thought he was doing that this weekend.......yes in 2 days time.......
I was astounded, so I said to him, "Really, you haven't spoken to me about that", he answered he thought it would be O.K." I told him it wouldn't be as it was too soon and I hadn't seen enough to make me think it was the correct decision yet but I thought we were meant to be working toward that.
He claims he understood but he is a man of very few words so I just don't know.
My question to everyone is am I being to demanding. Am I expecting too much. Should I just be letting him move in and hoping for the best.
I am hoping to avoid making a wrong decision and have myself and the kids go through the heartache of having him move out again. I myself want it to work but have alot of issues to sort through myself. Him sort of proving himself helps alot of those issues.
