Quoting hoping: It is sad to think that a trained c would not try to save marriages..but they must be out there..hope you have a great week.
The problem is that just because someone is a trained C, doesn’t mean they’re trained in marriage/couples counseling. Counseling has evolved but unfortunately, most counselors are geared towards individual counseling. The emphasis is on how a relationship serves the individual. Even more unfortunate is the attitude that still seems to be prevalent that if a relationship doesn’t serve you, you should get out of it.
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But as scary as all of this might be, I stick to my guns about letting your SO decide. You have to give him/her credit for some intelligence, and if you work on your side of the relationship, it takes ammo away from the anti-M arsenal. And I think that even an untrained C who isn’t exactly pro-M will have a more balanced view than if your W starts venting to friends and relatives.
