Ok, i keep trying to avoid R talks, and my wife keeps pulling me into them.

I got spewed at. Basically me and my neighbor are going out for a beer tommorow night, and this has put my wife in a bad mood. Even though she talks to my neighbors wife all the time, and she knows everything about our situation. Anyways, apparently she saw them tonight, and he mentioned getting a beer with me, and his wife was acting really strange towards her. Appararently not everyone approves of what she is doing. Like in my previous posts, she is angry because when i was the non-attentive husband everyone supported her. Now that she is the adulterous home-wrecker she is getting none of that support.

Anyways, she wants me to not talk to them about whatever is going on with us legally. (all of our R issues were fair game though, i like double standards). She said the new me makes her want to vomit. She said that now I am Mr. Perfect, Mr. nice guy, and when we were married she was always trying me to be more congienial with people (especially neighbors). I listened, I validated, I ignored the names she called me. I told her she was right.

She then said something interesting in her spew. "For years i have been complaining, and now that I have the husband I always wanted, it's too late."

I said "i know".

The conversation went back and forth from decent to deteriorating some by her jumping on any little thing I said that could possibly be misconstrued. LESSION HERE: USE AS FEW WORDS AS POSSIBLE. I did get it across that I didn't want to have discussions about anything concerning this around the kids, or when they are awake. They could wait until they were fast asleep, or we could both go somewhere alone.

It made her a little mad. (mostly because she was already mad), but she agreed to it.

She also wanted to know if I thought she should be looking for houses now. (she has 6 viewings tommorow) I asked her how fast she thought we could work through all the legal things for a seperation and money. She understood what i meant. She knows we can't speed through this.

So i think its premature right now, but i'm not going to tell her. She can figure that out on her own.

I did throw out my thinking about renting a place. She was a little thrown off by it, but didn't let it show too much. I guess she thinks if i rent a place, she will still go buy a place ASAP and just leave the house empty.