Madonna/Whore Complex Part 4

[Heywyre]

Thanks for all your well wishes guys - it was much appreciated.

The session lasted over 2 hours but it went a lot better than I had ever anticipated. This guy is amazing.

First of all, he WAS an anglican minister (and no, he doesn't preach religion to you at all) and has been practicing as a psychologist for over 30 years. He has done grief counselling, he was a psychologist/pastor in the prison system and he has suffered from depression since he was 8 years old but has only been diagnosed and on medication for the past 15 years. He outright told my H that "by far the spouse of the depressed person suffers much more emotionally than they do themselves" and he gave credit to his wife for hanging in there with him through "a very difficult time". So that was something I think H needed to hear.

He is VERY direct and to the point and there will be no beating around the bush with this guy - something my H desperately needs and we weren't getting with the last guy.

He kept pressing my H to answer the questions when he would avoid, delay, deflect - you name it, he kept saying "what does that have to do with my question and could we please come back to what we were talking about". He made him answer some VERY emotional questions from his past and I saw a side of him never revealed before. It was sad, but comforting at the same time to know he is human. H also liked him very much and said "if anyone can find the answer he can"

Of course this was only the first appointment (another one next week) and he dug pretty deep considering, but he isn't totally convinced at this time my H is suffering from M/W complex but something (and I can't remember the huge name for it) that is MUCH MORE complex (wouldn't you know it)

However, there is a VERY good side to this - the homework

He told us, before our next appointment:

(1) take a shower together
(2) give each other a massage (15 minutes each side) but no touching the genitals

I am SO looking forward to this because we have NEVER (yes, never) taken a shower together, although I have suggested it oodles of times

and, also H has never given me a massage so this should be interesting