Unfortunately, for a time... you are going to have to be the agressor and the teacher. The instructor. And you are going to get EXACTLY what you ask for. Which is not a turn on.
No, I can see that it's not, now that you put it into words so well. This must by why women are so cryptic when they ask us for things sometimes... they want to be surprised when we fill in the missing pieces, and so they can't tell us what to fill it them in with.
Too bad the guy's not into porn. I got a lot of good ideas from it. There's some goofy ideas in it too (like he interrupts the encounter and then MBs onto her face), but I was able to give her some nice surprises after spending some time downloading naughty videos from the Internet.
Maybe you could revisit the idea with him now that he's loosened up a bit. Just don't freak out on him when he tries out one of the goofy ideas.
Originally Posted By: Corri
You want... creativity, too. But he has to learn it. He has to find safety in it. And that is going to take some time. That is why I was encouraging you to the tantric sex class. He can learn from someone other than you... but you are there to give him encouragement.
Dunno.
Corri
Maybe he could go without her so it would still be a surprise, and he could lead her through it. Might be fun. Unless couples are supposed to practice in-class... I don't think him going without her would work out in that case!
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a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
