In my time around this board, I have seen many a wounded animal. Guess what? After 6, 7, 8 years, many have the exact same wounds they had when I first heard of them. If you are going to stand, it may take quite a while for the wounds to heal, if ever. These people have withdrawn and are not coming back any time soon.
So get out from under the dark cloud and stand for your marriage in the sunlight. You see the sunlight is so you can feel good about yourself, because dark clouds do not are not so good for feeling good.
Here are suicide rates for countries of the world.