have you read the mars venus books? has she? I think I see a lot of ignorance on her part, the same one I had before my H left. Ignorance of how her behavior is damaging, ignorance of what truly means to be married. She has a lot to learn, perhaps later on you can mention you will be seing a C and that you'd like her to come, ask gently and without expectations.
I am reading the book right now! I don't believe that she has. She does love me, but her expectations our unrealistic. I spent so much energy trying to always be perfect. I am not working on being better, not perfect. I would do a lot around the house and she would find something wrong. I did dishes, vacuumed the house, laundry. She would say, you didn't move the things off of the counter when you wiped them down. I was like, I just can't win!
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Kausion, are you and your wife religious at all? Do you have other things in common that you might be able to lean on to get you through the hard parts?
Yes, we are both Christians. We have not been to church in a while together though. We do pray every night. Other than that, our D3 is what we share at this time.
