Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[andyv]

Thx Husband,

I don't know what is wrong with me. This morning I asked again about OM.

I let it go for 4 days, after she admitted the R with OM, but I tossed and turned all night about a few details.

All I wanted to know was when did it get serious (after all the denials and just friends excuses). And she got angry and told me that they are starting to see more of each other , and see where it gets. I asked her how did he feel about her and she still says "I don't know".

WTF, if you are talking about seeing more of each other, and are seeing each other several times a week, with txting, phone calls, emails, how wouldn't you know.

It got a bit heated (on her part), when I discussed separating our finances. As her wage goes on the morgage (with a little left for herself), and I pay for everything else, including spending money for her.

If we separate the finances, and I pay half the morgage, half the bills, all of DD after school care fees and groceries, it will still leave W with not much left. She prefers the setup now, but with the revelations of the seriousness of OM, I feel sick and just don't want to think about funding him also (apparently he is careful with his money).

I thought things were going well, but I just find it hard DBing knowing this info (now that it is confirmed).

I am at a loss.