Does that mean you've learned all you can learn here and shared as much as you care to share or does that mean that Corri was mean to you so you're not coming back anymore?
Both.... anyway, my point was that you going to a counselor should not create much discomfort for you, since we've given you so much cr*p here already. But you H doesn't know that. So let him see your growth in the sessions, let him throw his blame onto you. I doubt you will even feel a sting from it. But at least he will be there with you, which is the first step.
IMO, most spouses go to counseling with the intent of showing the other how wrong the other is and how right s/he is. If your H thinks he can "prove" this to you, then he might go. But you will know it is all projection on his part and you can detach from his attacks. Your H left counseling when he thought the tables were being turned on him. So maybe you just needed a smarter, shrewder counselor.
