I'm sorry to say, it seems to me like neither of you are going to budge on what each thinks they're entitled to do or to expect from their partner, and those beliefs will be forever incompatible unless they are changed on one side or the other.
Please read my post about two pages ago where I said that I would not reach out anymore. I'm not trying to be stubborn or rigid, but I've already reached out. He has made a lot of progress too, but he has not emotionally committed anywhere near the level that I have.
If our differences turn out to be irreconcilable, so be it.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
