BeingMe, Unfortunately, the state of Missouri doesnt' believe in full or sole custody. The state believes in co-parenting in all aspects. Short of documented physical, sexual or substance abuse, the state feels that both parents should be fully envolved in all parenting decisions. My only consideration is to try to show some form of mental defect. Unfortunately, the state also doesn't see depression, bi-polar or immature MLC as mental defect. It's also not what I want. She is their mother. I want them to be able to be w/ her. I just don't want her to be able to make any decisions for them. She has shown she doesn't have their best interest @ heart. I know they're going to resent her. I feel sorry for her. I feel more sorry for them though. As they grow up and are better able to understand what has happened and what she has done, I think they'll resent her more and more. They'll see how truly selfish she is/was. They'll realize more what she took away from them. She won't be able fool S3 by buying him a new bike and bunk beds. She enjoys loneliness but why does she think they will. W told me several times over the last yr & half, she's more comfortable being alone than w/ others. She'd just as soon sit in a dark, quiet room and read a book then be w/ others. She never figured she'd marry or have kids she so deperately wanted. Now she's not going to be married and she'll have kids, to make as wacked out as she and her brothers are. All introverts, antisocial and anti-establishment. Just like her D. Unfortunately, she's never been able to realize what responsibility there is to having children. So what she wants is to have a part time family, do the fun things when she wants, then she can send them on their merry way or bide her time until it's time for me to pick them up. She doesn't care that their life style will have to change. She doesn't care if their lives will be in constant turmoil. She just wants what she feels she is owed.
As far as my post go, I don't think any of this would ever be admissable in any court hearing. It would all be "he said, she said" type of stuff. No witnesses, on proof. The only thing I've got would be character witnesses, or friends that have seen some of her antics. I don't want to bring them in to this and I don't want them to have to decide to between friends.
