I am worried about a having a messy D. I do not want a D. I would love to reconcile with my W. If D is the way my W chooses to go I want to make sure I have a fighting chance at getting primary custody of our girls. That is really all I would be fighting for. She can have whatever else she wants. I want my girls under my roof and she wants our kids under her new roof. Heck, if she agreed to let me have primary custody of our girls I would gladly give her the money to put a down payment on her new house. Maybe this would be a huge wakeup call for her, who knows.
I also do not plan to hire any lawyer until my W has filed. By me going to this lawyer my W cannot hire her and now this lawyer will know the background on my sitch before I retain her. I still will not be the one filing, she can and then deal with the guilt of breaking up our family. I won't file. I want my M, my W, and my family intact. She at this time does not.
Am I being irrational about this? Please hit me with a 2x4 if I am acting or thinking irrationally.
