My Marriage feels helpless III

[WAW in the OC]

I am in a similar sitch. My wife of 16 1/2 yrs wants a divorce so she can start her live w/ 22 yr old. She's 38! We have 3 kids and she wants to leave me for him!

I was afraid to talk to a lawyer because I understand this may start a war that may make it harder to reconcile. Character assasination and fighting over assets would make it harder to get back together. Doesn't this worry you? Are you just getting advice or are you hiring them?

My wife is trying to use a parallegal to end the marriage so I'm hoping this will take a little longer.