Either we both sleep in the master bedroom or we both sleep out here.....or WHAT.
Heather, there is no third option. Give him two choices both of you in the bedroom, or both of you on the couch...it's not an ultimatum either. It's amazing how many times if you give someone a third option that is an out they will take it, however if you leave the "out" out of the choices, they will often pick one of the other options. Of course they sometimes throw in their own out, but if they do then you can employ the phrase I threw in below.
If you two are committing to this relationship then tell him something like, "this is a place to begin showing OUR commitment, so it's up to you (meaning it's up to him) to choose...both of us in the bedroom, or both of us on the couch. Since we have chosen to remain man and wife we ought to sleep like man and wife." Why give him an out on it? I'm just picking this one thing that appears to be a sore point with the two of you. Perhaps there might be an easier thing to tackle?
